Comments on: Then comes marriage… http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/ Overcoming the Quarter-life Crisis Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:35:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Imerika http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2371 Imerika Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:07:48 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2371 I can see your point, but why are these people being considered "insensitive"? They are just sharing their happy moments with their friends. which is what you are supposed to do with friends. And if they nudge you about your own relationship, it's because they want you to be as happy as them. If you ARE happy, then just tell them that "I'm happy with where we are and don't see or want marriage in the near future." And leave it at that...if they keep asking, just let it roll off your back. It can only bother you if you let it bother you, it all depends on which way you decide to look at it. (and for the record, I am single and one of my good friends is engaged) I can see your point, but why are these people being considered “insensitive”? They are just sharing their happy moments with their friends. which is what you are supposed to do with friends. And if they nudge you about your own relationship, it’s because they want you to be as happy as them.
If you ARE happy, then just tell them that “I’m happy with where we are and don’t see or want marriage in the near future.” And leave it at that…if they keep asking, just let it roll off your back. It can only bother you if you let it bother you, it all depends on which way you decide to look at it. (and for the record, I am single and one of my good friends is engaged)

]]> By: Fabulously Broke http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2335 Fabulously Broke Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:18:35 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2335 Tell them to shut up and eat a cupcake. Or tell them they're being insensitive, because they are :( Or get together and talk about weddings on their own damn time. How irritating. Tell them to shut up and eat a cupcake.

Or tell them they’re being insensitive, because they are :(

Or get together and talk about weddings on their own damn time. How irritating.

]]> By: maris http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2324 maris Wed, 18 Mar 2009 03:10:49 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2324 I think marriage wouldn't BE such a big deal if people didn't make it one. Being 25, I'm really in no rush to get married but I feel like because I don't have a boyfriend I constantly have to be on the defense. Silly, but there is definitely an overwhelming sentiment of getting married being the 'be all and end all' in life and it really isn't. What matters is that you're happy. I think marriage wouldn’t BE such a big deal if people didn’t make it one. Being 25, I’m really in no rush to get married but I feel like because I don’t have a boyfriend I constantly have to be on the defense. Silly, but there is definitely an overwhelming sentiment of getting married being the ‘be all and end all’ in life and it really isn’t. What matters is that you’re happy.

]]> By: Reagan http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2321 Reagan Tue, 17 Mar 2009 23:42:25 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2321 LOVED this post...you captured this age and friends' weddings, etc. so well! LOVED this post…you captured this age and friends’ weddings, etc. so well!

]]> By: Sara http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2320 Sara Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:22:04 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2320 As an engaged person, I'm apologizing here and now to my friends. Not for talking about my upcoming wedding, but for asking that question. I asked it looooong before I was engaged, but it always brings me back to reality. Most of my friends ask me about the wedding because I'm not necessarily in overshare mode and they want to know, so I feel safe knowing I'm not incessantly talking about the Big Day. Thank you! As an engaged person, I’m apologizing here and now to my friends. Not for talking about my upcoming wedding, but for asking that question. I asked it looooong before I was engaged, but it always brings me back to reality. Most of my friends ask me about the wedding because I’m not necessarily in overshare mode and they want to know, so I feel safe knowing I’m not incessantly talking about the Big Day.

Thank you!

]]> By: Courtlynn http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2319 Courtlynn Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:30:28 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2319 I'm in the same boat! What's wrong with being ok with being single or not married right now? Sometimes I wonder if when the thought does creep in if it is only because they make me feel so far behind them when in actuality, I'm just trying to enjoy my life. I’m in the same boat! What’s wrong with being ok with being single or not married right now? Sometimes I wonder if when the thought does creep in if it is only because they make me feel so far behind them when in actuality, I’m just trying to enjoy my life.

]]> By: Ambles http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2318 Ambles Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:14:39 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2318 I hate it when it feels like you don't have anything in common with your friends anymore! It's like you're not even friends with your friends. I hate it when it feels like you don’t have anything in common with your friends anymore! It’s like you’re not even friends with your friends.

]]> By: Lindsay http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2317 Lindsay Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:49:31 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2317 I know what you mean. I've sat through at least two conversations about veil lengths in the past six months and it bores me to tears. Maybe things will be different when I'm engaged, but for now I'd rather talk about anything else. I know what you mean. I’ve sat through at least two conversations about veil lengths in the past six months and it bores me to tears. Maybe things will be different when I’m engaged, but for now I’d rather talk about anything else.

]]> By: clairemontgomerymd http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2316 clairemontgomerymd Tue, 17 Mar 2009 13:55:43 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2316 very well stated! now is the time you will decide who stays and who goes in your circle of friends. and i'd love to know about your dissertation! very well stated! now is the time you will decide who stays and who goes in your circle of friends.

and i’d love to know about your dissertation!

]]> By: Matt http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/03/17/then-comes-marriage/#comment-2315 Matt Tue, 17 Mar 2009 13:05:18 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=559#comment-2315 Another reason why I'm glad I'm a guy. We just talk about sports. Another reason why I’m glad I’m a guy.

We just talk about sports.

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