Comments on: Man, I Feel Like a Woman!

By: Anxiety Symptoms

Anxiety Symptoms — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 22:45:12 +0000

I wished to get a debate proceeding about this topic. Will you expand on everything that you actually authored about the following?

By: EmmaElizabeth

EmmaElizabeth — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 17:34:32 +0000

the last guy/date i was involved with…. took the whole ‘gentleman’ thing to the extreme. paid for everything, held open doors, sent me flowers to my desk at work, wouldn’t let me stand in the cold- picked me up/dropped me off at the door, etc etc. it annoys me when guys are tooooo much into it. i explained that much to him as well, he replied that that’s just what he does. but on the other hand- he said he likes to do dishes, do his laundry and cook as well. (yes i realize he was all sorts of perfect. too bad he still had feelings for other girls. lame.)

but with the rest of everything- i dont mind paying, or asking a guy out, but its easier if the guy asks me out first.

By: thatShortChick

thatShortChick — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 19:55:20 +0000

i totally subscribe to the notion that the guy pays for the first date. i’m more than willing to pay for the second (if there is one) and whatever.

and to the fact that the guy better propose and handle all of the proposal details.

By: The Dumbest Smart Girl You Know

The Dumbest Smart Girl You Know — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 15:56:09 +0000

What a great topic!

You know, my little boy is two and a half, and he blows all these stereotypes to hell. His favorite toys are trucks and trains and airplanes…and his sister’s magic wand. He loves ANYTHING pink, loves to play dress up (which he calls “playing princesses”) and wearing butterfly barrettes and carries a “man bag.” It cracks me up, because he’s so rough and tumble…with his tool box and super hero cape…and a tutu. He just likes what he likes, the world be damned!

My relationship with their father was very traditional. He worked, I stayed at home with the kids and took care of the house. That’s not the way I was raised, and not something I want to instill in my children, either. It’s just what worked for us.

I want the kids to keep going exactly as they are, not to lose that innocence that makes this “quirky” behavior perfectly acceptable! It makes me really sad when people make comments to him about it. Leave him alone. Let him be free for as loooong as possible.

By: brandy

brandy — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 14:43:28 +0000

I’ve been having an on going debate with a guy about who should pay for the first date dinner. I like the idea of splitting it and he says that notion offends him. I think what sometimes gets left out of these conversations is the fact that it’s not just girls pushing these ideas down a guys throat, sometimes the guys are so… entrenched in tradition that they get offended by chicks who think a little more progressively. Except Matt apparently. He’s like so progressive I think he probably owns a man purse.

By: Matt

Matt — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 13:18:53 +0000

Can I just say that I think it’s stupid that guys are supposed to make the first call and arrange the first date, etc. etc.

I wish that idealogy would go bye bye. I wish more women would be aggressive.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 11:49:45 +0000

It’s probably because I’m not much of a dater (we Brits still don’t do it like the Americans) but I have absolutely no problem with sharing the bill. I’d probably rather not pay the whole thing on a first date, but fair’s fair.

I don’t know if I’d ever ask a man to marry me, but I’ll never say never.

And yes men and women should both contribute to the household chores. The idea of me slaving away over a man’s shirts while he sits on his ass and does nothing is laughable. But. I would do it if he was taking care of some other task.

I’m not sure what else I subscribe to, if anything. I may have to check back on comments later. I generally just think that in relationships people should always talk, be straight about what they want and expect, treat each other with respect and courtesy. And if you’ve got that all the other crap falls into place.

By: Jules

Jules — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 11:10:56 +0000

I also want my hubby to mow the lawn and shovel the snow and clean the cars…..You know, all the icky guy stuff! And I agree, I don’t mind if women ask OTHER men to get married, but my hubby had to ask me.

By: Kendall

Kendall — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 08:30:27 +0000

I used to believe the guy should pay for the first few dates until I dated the Ex who was so against it that she essentially deprogrammed me.

Other than that I can’t think of any I ever subscribed to, probably side effect from being raised by self-titled feminists.

However I pretty much give a one-fingered salute to the male stereotype as a mentally (and emotionally) stunted lump who needs a female caregiver to function in society. If you don’t get what I mean, just picture the image of a man with a beer belly, sitting in front of the TV watching football while waiting for his wife to cook him something manly.