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]]> By: Help http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3458 Help Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:49:39 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3458 I need some major help here!! I've been dating a woman, while separated and awaiting my divorce. Yes I already know that this was a BAD idea. Too late we have/had very strong feelings for ea. other and clicked right off the bat. The timing couldn't be worse but our connection couldn't be better. I fell in love w/her in may but haven't told her yet. So what do I do throw it away? Anyway. My divorce documents are currently being drafted. Last week my future ex called her workplace and told her supervisor that she was having an affair with her Husband. This devastated my girlfriend. She told me she was hurt her very badly by this and she was EXTREMELY angry, rightly so. She then came over to my place and we talked for awhile and told me she wanted a FWB type of setup. I am totally confused by this as this is backwards from a typical FWB setup because we were already emotionally involved. Well I agreed for now. Although she wants me to tell friends and family that we are no longer seeing each other (which I did) she still looks lovingly into my eyes and whispers my name when I caress her and touch her face. I asked her awhile ago why she like to touch my face and she said because it's intimate, I agree. She still touches my face. We both still kiss very passionately. And caress each other as well. We sleep over ea. other's houses too. She likes to sleep with me, we do have sex, and cuddle and we hold ea. other at night. Well that was long winded huh? My question. I don't think we're in a true FWB setup. I think she's trying to protect herself from the pain and hurt? I will file my uncontested divorce soon and it should take maybe 30 days to complete. Should I tell her that I love her and need/want more? Or should I wait until the divorce is at least filed or completed before doing so. Please help me I LOVE THIS WOMAN VERY MUCH!!! I need some major help here!!

I’ve been dating a woman, while separated and awaiting my divorce. Yes I already know that this was a BAD idea. Too late we have/had very strong feelings for ea. other and clicked right off the bat. The timing couldn’t be worse but our connection couldn’t be better. I fell in love w/her in may but haven’t told her yet. So what do I do throw it away? Anyway.
My divorce documents are currently being drafted.

Last week my future ex called her workplace and told her supervisor that she was having an affair with her Husband. This devastated my girlfriend. She told me she was hurt her very badly by this and she was EXTREMELY angry, rightly so.

She then came over to my place and we talked for awhile and told me she wanted a FWB type of setup. I am totally confused by this as this is backwards from a typical FWB setup because we were already emotionally involved.

Well I agreed for now. Although she wants me to tell friends and family that we are no longer seeing each other (which I did) she still looks lovingly into my eyes and whispers my name when I caress her and touch her face. I asked her awhile ago why she like to touch my face and she said because it’s intimate, I agree. She still touches my face. We both still kiss very passionately. And caress each other as well.

We sleep over ea. other’s houses too. She likes to sleep with me, we do have sex, and cuddle and we hold ea. other at night.

Well that was long winded huh? My question. I don’t think we’re in a true FWB setup. I think she’s trying to protect herself from the pain and hurt? I will file my uncontested divorce soon and it should take maybe 30 days to complete.

Should I tell her that I love her and need/want more? Or should I wait until the divorce is at least filed or completed before doing so.

Please help me I LOVE THIS WOMAN VERY MUCH!!!

]]> By: Johnny Smith http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3452 Johnny Smith Sun, 04 Sep 2011 03:27:08 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3452 Highly beneficial appreciate it, It looks like your current subscribers will probably want a lot more content such as this continue the excellent effort. Highly beneficial appreciate it, It looks like your current subscribers will probably want a lot more content such as this continue the excellent effort.

]]> By: Wowsca http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3436 Wowsca Thu, 14 Apr 2011 16:08:48 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3436 How's about from a guys point of view. - I meet this girl almost exactly 6 months ago. We started off friends wth benefits..then it slowly became a relationship. She had just got out of a long marriage and was looking to liberate herself. I never labeled our relatiship because I knew that might driver her away. Sex is great and we have alot of fun. She also has a kid and a demanding job, I have school and a busy schedule. So yesterday..a day after our "6 month" mark she says we need to had a talk. So now she says she wants to be friends, wants to date to find the right someone but leaves the ability wth me to choose if we want to be just friends or wth benefits. She's says she won't sleep wth anyone else but would like to date also. The dilemma is I feel something..but not sure how she feels exactly. - so..what do you guys think? How’s about from a guys point of view. - I meet this girl almost exactly 6 months ago. We started off friends wth benefits..then it slowly became a relationship. She had just got out of a long marriage and was looking to liberate herself. I never labeled our relatiship because I knew that might driver her away. Sex is great and we have alot of fun. She also has a kid and a demanding job, I have school and a busy schedule. So yesterday..a day after our “6 month” mark she says we need to had a talk. So now she says she wants to be friends, wants to date to find the right someone but leaves the ability wth me to choose if we want to be just friends or wth benefits. She’s says she won’t sleep wth anyone else but would like to date also. The dilemma is I feel something..but not sure how she feels exactly. - so..what do you guys think?

]]> By: Katrine http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3416 Katrine Wed, 01 Dec 2010 08:06:35 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3416 FWBs is so difficult and confusing, especially if you started off with a good friendship. With my experience, I was blaming sex for turning the relationship into pretty much sex-only for a while, not much friendship. But now I wonder if we would still talk if there was no sex at all. I've been thinking to break it off several times, but it's difficult to bring myself about to do that.I think I might be interfering with his pursuits to get a steady gf, but whenever he starts talking to someone I can't help it but sometimes feel jealous. It's complicated :) FWBs is so difficult and confusing, especially if you started off with a good friendship. With my experience, I was blaming sex for turning the relationship into pretty much sex-only for a while, not much friendship. But now I wonder if we would still talk if there was no sex at all. I’ve been thinking to break it off several times, but it’s difficult to bring myself about to do that.I think I might be interfering with his pursuits to get a steady gf, but whenever he starts talking to someone I can’t help it but sometimes feel jealous. It’s complicated :)

]]> By: Ceebatch http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3394 Ceebatch Thu, 26 Aug 2010 05:42:43 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3394 I have had a fwb thing going on now for over 2 years. I've had similar situations in the past where we "said" everything was cool, but...being a member of the female species, it was me who always developed feelings. So back to my current situation, my fwb and I worked together for 3 years. We would do so many crazy, erotic, and risky things at work that it was so hard to stop because I had never experienced how amazing spontaneous sex could be! We were both uncontrollably drawn to one another, but now that we don't work together things have kind of cooled off...until the other day when he texted me and said he missed me. I broke it down for him and told him that I didn't want to continue to do the fwb thing anymore because I was beginning to develop feelings. To my surprise he told me he's feeling the same way. That was a fwb first for me! The feeling is mutual?!? So now we're going to go out on an actual date and see where it goes. Wish me luck! I have had a fwb thing going on now for over 2 years. I’ve had similar situations in the past where we “said” everything was cool, but…being a member of the female species, it was me who always developed feelings. So back to my current situation, my fwb and I worked together for 3 years. We would do so many crazy, erotic, and risky things at work that it was so hard to stop because I had never experienced how amazing spontaneous sex could be! We were both uncontrollably drawn to one another, but now that we don’t work together things have kind of cooled off…until the other day when he texted me and said he missed me. I broke it down for him and told him that I didn’t want to continue to do the fwb thing anymore because I was beginning to develop feelings. To my surprise he told me he’s feeling the same way. That was a fwb first for me! The feeling is mutual?!? So now we’re going to go out on an actual date and see where it goes. Wish me luck!

]]> By: So many regrets http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3391 So many regrets Sun, 22 Aug 2010 00:26:19 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3391 I never thought I would be the type to get involved in one of those benefit friendships and I did...with my ex boyfriend of all people after a we broke up. The benefits thing went on for over 4 months even though we agreed to stop it but it kept on happening. We started the fwb a few weeks after we broke up. I'm never in my life going to do it again. It has hurt me so much because I wanted more and he didn't. While we were doing the fwb thing I thought that he wanted to get back together because he was saying things but he didn't want to. The fwb thing is over now and I'm pretty sure the friendship is over as well, it was so painful to hear that he was having sex with me and broke up with me just because he stopped liking me...Now an ex of his has moved back and I've just been his in between girl. I never thought I would be the type to get involved in one of those benefit friendships and I did…with my ex boyfriend of all people after a we broke up. The benefits thing went on for over 4 months even though we agreed to stop it but it kept on happening.
We started the fwb a few weeks after we broke up. I’m never in my life going to do it again. It has hurt me so much because I wanted more and he didn’t. While we were doing the fwb thing I thought that he wanted to get back together because he was saying things but he didn’t want to. The fwb thing is over now and I’m pretty sure the friendship is over as well, it was so painful to hear that he was having sex with me and broke up with me just because he stopped liking me…Now an ex of his has moved back and I’ve just been his in between girl.

]]> By: left empty http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-3328 left empty Sat, 19 Sep 2009 20:05:24 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-3328 I was in this type of situation, just getting out of it. It was fun for the duration of it, a year of great talks, laughs, great sex, laughs, talks, great sex. And then poof just like that I was falling in love with him. I couldn't believe it. So I had to break it off and completely back away. I will never do this again and I only proved one thing to myself that I was able to handle it, but human nature is human nature - I got attached and wanted more and he could not give it to me and in reality he is not someone that I can see myself growing old. FWB relationships are not for everyone and it can work as long as you continue to have fun and not to expect anything more. I was in this type of situation, just getting out of it. It was fun for the duration of it, a year of great talks, laughs, great sex, laughs, talks, great sex. And then poof just like that I was falling in love with him. I couldn’t believe it. So I had to break it off and completely back away. I will never do this again and I only proved one thing to myself that I was able to handle it, but human nature is human nature - I got attached and wanted more and he could not give it to me and in reality he is not someone that I can see myself growing old. FWB relationships are not for everyone and it can work as long as you continue to have fun and not to expect anything more.

]]> By: Aliyah Nichols http://ummnowwhat.com/2009/01/03/friends-with-benefits/#comment-2881 Aliyah Nichols Sun, 24 May 2009 18:55:14 +0000 http://ummnowwhat.com/?p=338#comment-2881 I totally loved this thread, thanks for the share. I totally loved this thread, thanks for the share.

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